Making Him Regret The Break-Up

Terrell Collins, of Detroit, pauses while checking employment on a laptop comuter while attending a job fair in Livonia, Mich., Wednesday, Nov. 4, 2009. (AP Photo/Paul Sancya)

Ladies we’ve all been been here, that anger, the feeling of wanting him to see a more beautiful more successful you. If you’ve recently broken up with your boyfriend then you’re probably thinking about this right now. You might also be thinking about your new future, a future without him. If you can’t see your future without him, then you may be thinking of how to get a man (in this case, your man) back.

The first thing to do is decide whether you still want your man back or if you’ve had enough. Most ladies prefer reconciling because it takes away the hurt quickly. That’s the short cut and usually doesn’t work because just over a month or 2 you’re back to square one and fighting about the same things all over again.

It’s important to take a good, long look at your relationship and say “Self are you truly happy with this man ? ” then consider all the possible challenges that you think led him into deciding to want to break up. Once you’ve got to that point and you’ve made your decision then you’re ready for the new you and it starts with not doing the following.

1. Don’t Send Abusive Texts

Whatever you do, don’t send abusive or crazy emails or texts to your ex. If you haven’t heard from him, you may be feeling frustrated or even angry, but abusing him won’t help your cause. If you want to know how to get a man back, then definitely don’t do this!

2. Don’t Make Angry Phone Calls

Don’t make angry phone calls either. And don’t leave any voice-mails where you’re screaming like a fishwife. If the situation was reversed and your man was trying to get back together with you, would you respond if he left you angry phone messages?

3. Don’t Stalk Him

You may want to know what he’s doing and if he’s already seeing someone else, if he’s happy without you, but stalking him like a crazy lady isn’t going to work. He’ll realize what you’re up to pretty quickly. If you want to get him back, then keep your dignity and don’t harass him.

So How Do You Get A Man To Regret Breaking Up With You ?

As mentioned above, keep your dignity. That’s first and foremost.

Secondly, give him some space. He may need some time to process the break-up.

While you’re waiting things out, you can use this opportunity to reconnect with your girlfriends if you’ve neglected them during the relationship. However, if you do want to reconnect with your friends and you end up getting back together with your ex, make sure you make time for your girlfriends as well. Otherwise, they may not be your friends any longer. Real friends don’t drop their girlfriends because they’ve got a guy in their life.

This may also be a good opportunity for you to work on yourself. If you were strong and independent before you got together with your guy, are you still the same person now? If not, why not? What’s changed? Are there hobbies that you enjoyed doing before you were in this relationship that you don’t do anymore? If so, why not take up those hobbies again? Did you have goals that you wanted to achieve but didn’t have time for because your relationship took up all your time? Why not look at those goals again and see if you’re ready to achieve them now?

If you look after yourself this way, you’re building up your self-esteem as well as keeping busy during the break-up. If your guy isn’t receiving angry or abusive phone calls, texts or emails, he may realize he wants you back too. If you’re not harassing or stalking him, he may be wondering what you’re doing (or if you’re found someone new). Once he’s had some space and time to get past the immediate break-up, he may try to contact you.

This is how to get a man to regret breaking up with you. By acting classy and dignified, you won’t embarrass or humiliate yourself and you’re giving him the space he needs to think clearly. If you don’t speak about him behind his back or spy on his friends, you’ve got a much better chance of getting back together.

So if you want to get him back, remember the above tips and stay true to yourself. You may find it helpful to talk to a counselor about all the emotions you’re experiencing. This way, you won’t be as tempted to share your feelings with him through angry phone calls or emails which can seriously hamper your chances of reconciliation.